I have three stories to tell you.
An eleven-year-old boy asks an eleven-year-old girl to send him a naked photo. The girl tells the boy to get lost. So the boy hits back with, “Well, you’re a fat, ugly bitch anyway.”
These kids are both in year six.
Two eleven-year-old girls – best friends – love texting each other. And as is not uncommon – when talking about what went down at school that day, they routinely discuss other girls in the class and not always in a, err, positive way.
Then these two best friends have a fight. Gloves are off. One of the girls forwards ALL the text messages to other girls in the class who had been gossiped about. It’s schoolyard Armageddon the next day.
Nicky’s* mum gets called by the school because her daughter has been describing fairly hardcore porn to her classmates.
Turns out the young girl who has her own iPhone (with no parental controls or restrictions in place) started looking on YouTube for “videos of girls called Nicky*” That request sent her down a rabbit hole into some very dark corners of the web. Nicky* is seven. *not her real name
I could keep going. Seriously. I have another twenty stories just like those three.
Every week I’m told tales from school principals and teachers and parents and kids. Stories about kids – primary school kids – wreaking havoc in their own lives or the lives of their classmates because of their inability to handle life online.
I know we have a generation of tech-savvy kids. I get it. But that does not mean they are emotionally mature enough to be handling Skype Chat or to have their own smart phones where they can send text messages or request naked images of their classmates.
Last month the inspirational Melinda Gates – former Microsoft employee, philanthropist and wife of Bill – wrote a sit-up-and-pay-attention honest account of the impact smartphones are having on today’s adolescents.
In a piece in The Washington Post entitled “I spent my entire career in technology. I wasn’t prepared for its effect on my kids”, Gates acknowledges the tremendous benefits that technology brings (the incredible learning resources, the way social media can help us find like-minded souls and support networks) but openly discusses her concerns that smartphones and social media are making our kids lives harder than they need be.
“Phones and apps aren’t good or bad by themselves, but for adolescents who don’t yet have the emotional tools to navigate life’s complications and confusions, they can exacerbate the difficulties of growing up: learning how to be kind, coping with feelings of exclusion, taking advantage of freedom while exercising self-control,” she wrote.