This is an extract from a new book by Mamamia contributor Rebecca Sparrow.
The book is called ‘Ask Me Anything (heartfelt answers to 65 anonymous questions from teenage girls)’ and it’s one that every teenage girl in your life needs to read. This chapter is called: “I’m ugly. So how will I ever get a boyfriend?”
Define ‘ugly’ for me.
Ugly in what way? Because let me tell you what ugly means to me. ‘Ugly’ is someone who is racist or homophobic or sexist. ‘Ugly’ is the person who belittles others to make themselves feel better. ‘Ugly’ is someone who is disloyal and unkind. ‘Ugly’ is the person who is verbally or physically abusive to others.
But I don’t think that’s what you’re talking about.
You’re calling yourself ugly because you have too many moles or sticking-out ears or chubby thighs. You think you’re ugly because you hate your stupid flat hair or your boobs, which are too small (or too big).
‘Beauty’ is subjective. So often it is our physical flaws, which make us unique.
Life is about learning to love what you’ve got. And it’s about putting your best self forward. If you’re feeling like one big hot mess (and everybody does at least once a week!), there’s nothing wrong with reading up on how to dress to suit your body shape or talking to a hairdresser to get a haircut that beautifully frames your face.
— Lisa Wilkinson (@Lisa_Wilkinson) November 2, 2015