All mothers have momentary wishes that they weren’t scratching dried vomit from their clothes as they leave the house, that they didn’t have an audience on the toilet or could experience a night of solid uninterrupted sleep.
For some, the regret of having children is not a momentary experience but a desperate painful yearning that drags on all day every day. These woman are often forced to suffer in silence as it is not socially acceptable for mothers to think “if I had my time over I wouldn’t have children” let alone express this regret to others.
While these women consistently report their “love” for their children they also go into great detail about their distress in their role as “mothers”.
I listen without judgement and with empathy. These women are not inhumane monsters but people in pain. I try to create a safe space for them to explore all their negative thoughts, feelings about being a mother which generate such guilt, shame, grief and isolation.

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This is totally me, everything about this article describes me. I never wanted to have a child, my husband was desperate for one/some...i was never maternal at all and couldn't stand babies or children...but I gave him one. She's now 8, the early years were easier than now, although I do remember telling someone when she was about 2 that at times I hated her sometimes (terrible I know!!!) Don't get me wrong, I do love her but I absolutely regret having a child. I find myself dreaming of running away (I won't). It doesn't help that I don't feel any love for my husband anymore and know we're heading for divorce. They went away for a couple of days and I found myself somewhat dreading their (mainly his) return. I feel so tired, emotional, depressed, alone and also very ashamed of feeling this way. It's nice to know there are other mother's that feel this way too, but it doesn't take away the despondency of it all.