Many "other women" were lied to by your man. In my early 20s I fell deeply in love with a man I knew at my side gig. I had no idea he was already living with a girlfriend. I was so madly in love as only you can be at that age. I found out from a 3rd party that he lived with his long-time girlfriend. I confronted him and he said he was unhappy, just give him time to leave. He said her family had embraced him like a son and that made it hard even though he wasn't in love with her. It dragged on and on and he never left. He married her and didn't tell me. He knocked her up and didn't tell me. Finally after years of humiliation I found the strength to end it. 15 years later he contacted me, telling me he was divorced and I was the one he really should have chosen. I tried dating him but felt nothing but anger and broke it off. Now I'm 58 and dating him again but find that being with him puts my own regret in my face - I wanted kids but I chose all the wrong men, and he was exhibit number 1. It never happened for me, not marriage, not kids. I was young and stupid, not a predatory vixen. For the record, between me and him, I'm the only one who feels guilty about him cheating on her. He doesn't ever question his own choices from a moral perspective.