Beautifully articulated. Unfortunately we need to accept that we have no more control over whether our friends and family get the Covid vaccine than the strangers we walk past in the street. And just like the antivax stranger, convincing them to change their mind is going to be near impossible.
None of these opinions communicates underlying abuse. So none of them are wrong. And as for unpopular - it would be interesting to see a list of 'popular' opinions. It would be hard to come up with one because what seems 'popular to one parent will be wildly unpopular to another. These are just different parenting approaches. What works for one child and family, is a disaster for another. No need for any of us to be justifying what we are doing, to each other as long as what we are doing works for us, our child(ren) and our family.
You know your kids and your family best, so do what you feel is right for them. There is no need for angst or defensiveness over whether debit cards are right or wrong for kids. For some kids they will be perfect, for others a disaster. Make a decision for your kids and just get on with it. You don't need the rest of the world's approval to parent your kids.
This is better than the usual passive aggressive, infantilising fare that has been served up by women on social media on this topic recently (think the excruciating documentation of the woman trying to teach her husband to feed his dog) This is direct and honest and because of that may actually get some positive response. Well written!
Thank you for highlighting this problem. I am privileged and can afford private health insurance, which has over the last fourteen years covered tens if not over a hundred thousand dollars for private hospital admissions to manage the Bipolar 1 Disorder I live with. Just one of the five different medications I take daily, costs $35 per week. Thanks to the high standard of psychiatric care I can access, I live a happy, highly functioning life. But not everyone can afford private health insurance. At the moment good quality mental health care is means dependent in this country, and it needs to change.
Could not agree more. Breast feeding propaganda can be immensely damaging to new mothers and the benefits of breast over formula feeding are overstated for most babies. This recent Thought Food article may be of interest to any new mother who is struggling with breast feeding and is being told by pro breastfeeding organisations to 'just keep going' : https://anitalinkthoughtfood.com/2020/08/10/the-breast-is-best-myth/
@bittersweet I am sorry you had to go through that, and it sounds as though walking away was the right decision. Ultimately everyone is responsible for their own mental health, and no one else can force someone or persuade someone to take that responsibility seriously if they don't want to or if they are just too unwell. Early diagnosis and appropriate treatment give someone the best chance at achieving insight and taking responsibility. Sadly, stigma surrounding mental illness - especially those extending beyond anxiety and depression - can get in the way of people seeking help, and if they do and don't get the right care they need early on it can make them resistant to seeking help later.
The comparison game is a slippery slope in any aspect of life, but nowhere more so than when people compare one mental illness with another. It's tempting to base opinions on how you interpret social media or the way people look and sound, but we have no idea what someone else is going through.
It is also all relative. As someone who has experienced symptoms of severe catatonic depression, mania, psychosis, and panic attacks as part of Bipolar 1 Disorder, to me it can feel as though if mental health were a popularity contest depression would be equal if not a close second to anxiety, but psychosis and the mental illnesses featuring it would not even be admitted to the contest.
Comparison will make you miserable. But remembering you are not alone is important. And other people are writing and talking about what depression feels like. You may like to check out this article I wrote for Mamamia a while back: https://www.mamamia.com.au/...
Thank you for reading and commenting. It's so important for the people who have these illnesses to comment. I couldn't agree more with you. If you enjoyed this piece on discriminatory language, you may also be interested in https://anitalinkthoughtfoo..., which deals with the role the media plays in vilifying our most vulnerable mentally ill. You can also find this piece on mamamia at: https://www.mamamia.com.au/...
Well said. We do have a long way to go, but will get there if we continue to generate open discussion. Hearing from people who have a mental illness, especially a complex mental illness is so incredibly valuable. Thank you for reading and commenting.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment. You are so right in saying it is often easier for people to jump to conclusions without considering that an undiagnosed, untreated or poorly managed mental illness may be at least part of the equation. Of course it's not always the case, but I feel strongly we at least need to rule it out. If we dig deeper in a lot of these cases we may well come up with the immense short comings of our public mental health system. If you enjoyed this piece, you may also be interested in: https://anitalinkthoughtfoo...
I am so sorry to hear your sister experienced psychosis. Sadly there are very few Mother Baby Units, especially in the public mental health hospital system, to appropriately manage perinatal mood disorders, including anxiety, depression, and psychosis. When I went through this, I was only separated from my baby for a week, because I was lucky enough to land in a private psychiatric hospital with one of these units. Having your baby with you as you recover, dramatically improves outcomes, both in terms of the illness being treated, but also increases the chances of getting to the other side with the mother/baby bond intact.
To find more of my writing, you can find me at https://anitalinkthoughtfoo... - my website and blog about living a good life with mental illness (amongst other things). Happy Saturday everyone!