Once I heard about a girl who on leaving prison, decided the best way to turn her life around was to find a man and have a child. It became a running joke with my friend. Then I had a baby and turned my life around.
By the time I swiped on the match that changed my life, I had been on and off Tinder for several years. While looking for potential mates I ended up with some genuine friendships. I had some lovely dates and some not-so-lovely dates.
This guy seemed normal enough. He was younger than me, a tradie, into classic cars and loved that I did retro pin-up. The conversation was interesting enough. Weeks of messaging led to drinks, above average sex and the agreement that we’d do it again.
Then things got weird. Plans were cancelled, changed or discarded without explanation. I was often left hanging and unsatisfied. A quick check on Facebook confirmed my suspicions. Tinderboy had a girlfriend. No wonder he would only communicate on Snapchat. Feeling disgusted I ended it.
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Shortly after, I got the news that Mum had been diagnosed with cancer. I was devastated. Three years before Dad had died, also from cancer.
At 33 life was not what I had hoped for. Completely lost, I reached out to Tinderboy. He asked if I minded if he had a girlfriend. As far as I was concerned that was his issue to work out. In my mind, it was every man for themselves. I just wanted a distraction from the emotional pain I felt. Two months later I was pregnant.
I took the test one afternoon after work. It was hard to concentrate, I kept rereading the instructions certain I made a mistake. I was 33, single and pregnant to a guy who had a girlfriend. This was not how it was supposed to happen. I was so numb, there wasn’t sadness, joy or any other emotions. Just the knowledge that I had to do something. I sent a message to my friends, a photo of the positive test. I called my doctor friend to ask advice. Sitting on the floor I began weighing up my options.
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Latest info; the author of the article has said that condoms do NOT help to prevent STIs. That is the level of absurd we are talking about here. She believes that condoms don't help to stop the spread of HIV/AIDS or other STIs. She said that to me. I feel very sad and sorry for the child.
Just saw this on news limited media: "A STRAIN of gonorrhoea that is resistant to antibiotics and can cause infertility is spreading rapidly in Australia.
Dubbed a “super-superbug” because of its resistance, cases involving this nasty strain of the sexually transmitted infection have almost tripled in six months.
The shocking figures are part of a new report released by the Australian Commission on Safety and Quality in Health Care, which reveals that 742 reports of critically resistant bacteria were lodged in its system from April to the end of September 2017."
No Glove, NO LOVE!!! A pill WON'T protect you!