Modern dating is like the animal kingdom. There’s the peacocks flashing their brilliant feathers. The gorillas beating their chests. The lions having a roar. It’s a jungle out there. First impressions count BIG.TIME.
And if that first impression happens to involve a pair of petrol station sunnies, a tiger in Vegas or a “let my abs do the talking” shot*, it can be a “hell no” from the get-go. *Chris Hemsworth is an exception to the rule*
That’s the overwhelming feedback I’ve got from speaking to 10 incredibly smart, funny and confident women I know who are separating the dudes from the men, and the “come-on-over” Casanovas from the genuine catches. And it all starts with the profile picture.
There’s an art to choosing the right one. Sure, one woman’s “hipster Santa Claus” could very well be another’s Thor. But I found a general set of rules that are consistent: shirtless selfies are out, puppy and cat selfies are in.
In fact, dating and friend-finding app Bumble has even banned the shirtless bathroom mirror selfie. It’s one of the reasons why many of the women I spoke to use it. Bumble is taking off because of a novel concept: Women make the first move. Once you make a match, you’ve got 24 hours to message them (for both heterosexual and same-sex dating) – and they have 24 hours to respond. That concept has attracted a higher calibre of users who want something more than a casual hook-up.
So what are the deal breakers and the deal makers? The ladies have spoken and here’s what they told Mamamia. *Note: Some names have been changed for anonymity, but their answers are 100 percent authentic.
Top Comments
There's nothing more attractive than a man who likes cats.
Really? Something about a man liking cats puts me off. Maybe it's because I loathe cats and can't understand why anyone would want to own one.
I feel sorry for people who hate cats. I really do. I think it would be a miserable life. I don't trust people who hate cats, there is something wrong there.
This isn't a photo per se, but this particular guy *really* turned me off. I took a screenshot of his profile (just the words) and sent it to friends. No one has come back with anything other than a slack jaw and sense of disbelief. Here goes:
'Sorry that my first liners aren't enough to sweep you off your feet... most you girls are fuelled up because a bunch of guys hit on you here but most of y'all have just this one thing and news flash... every girl in the world has it...Ive lived in 7 countries, I speak 6 languages. Ive just bought my first apartment. How the hell are you going to impress me bitch? Spent the last 10 years in New York, ain't looking for no basic chick.'
This however was better than the guy who, when we matched, sent me a opening line of, 'Hey chubby. My cock, your ass.'
What a bunch of charmers!
Good grief.
Everyone knows it's 'Dear chubby', not 'Hey chubby'.
Where have peoples manners gone?
Don't you make me come and find you, Snorks...
Well, I am just astonished that he is even still bothering with his online profile. Surely a man with such charm and charisma must have women LINING up out the door to date him...
He's probably beating them off with hockey sticks, that's how popular he is!