As an avid viewer of Bachelor In Paradise, who has just finished watching tonight’s episode of tears and tantrums and terribly-contrived-rose-ceremony-speeches (I’m looking at you, Turnbull) I have some feelings that I’m feeling so hard they need to be written down and shared with strangers because FEELINGS.
I get that Nina doesn’t want to kiss a man before she has known them for a month. I get that she has her beliefs and values and ideas of what a first kiss should be like. I get that she doesn’t want to hand out her #tongueskillz to any tatted-up, tipsy semi-stranger. I also get that she told her chosen dude, Eden, as such approximately 296 times.
That’s fine. You want to wait to kiss the person you’re seeing? Fine. If Nina doesn’t want to mack on in front of an army of television cameras and producers, that is fi-iiiine.
Watch the moment Eden confronts Nina. Post continues after video.
We all have different ideas of what a romantic relationship should look like. Some people adopt the “try before you buy” method (me… I’m talking about me), others the “wait, wait, wait and then waaaaait some more” approach (ala Nina). Different strokes, folks, etc.
It’s also fine that Eden would really rather just kiss the woman he’s spending so much time with.
“You’re asking me for affection. And that’s not fair,” Nina argued.
In choosing to withhold really all affection and intimacy, Nina must accept the reality of that decision: Many, many men will not be cool with waiting 30 days for a peck on the lips. That doesn’t make those men selfish. Or pigheaded. It doesn’t indicate that they “only want one thing” or “only think about sex” or can’t develop a rational thought beyond their willy. It means they have a different approach. It means they don’t want to potentially waste 30 days only to find out there is zero sexual chemistry and you’re someone they’d rather play UNO with.