Beneath the skin of every woman who has suffered abuse at the hands of a man is a scar.
In some women it is buried deep - protected by time, therapy and care.
In other women it is close to the surface almost visible, certainly always palpable. It is not a physical scar, but it has made an imprint and it serves as a constant reminder.
It is a warning beacon, a tender aching spot that causes nerves to contract and the heart to beat faster.
Every time we hear another story of a woman assaulted or abused; the scar moves closer to the surface.
It exposes the part of us we try to hide so that we can move through the world without fear.
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On hearing how Nicholas Drummond verbally and then physically assaulted a young woman at a bar in Sydney’s lower North Shore, I felt my scar prickle.
When I heard how he managed to successfully appeal his conviction, it started to throb. But when I read Drummond’s 'apology' that scar almost burst through me with rage.
"I would like to offer an unconditional apology to the people I have hurt by my actions. They fill me with shame and regret. I am deeply remorseful.
The judge's comments are regrettable and have exposed me to intense media scrutiny. But the fact remains that I was at fault and I must own it. I fully accept responsibility for my actions.