As told to Polly Taylor
My first reaction was disgust.
I was flicking through the newspaper and splashed across the page, amid the doom and gloom, were the words: 'Life is short. Have an affair.'
It was an advert for 'cheating' website, Ashley Madison. This was in 2015 and it was the first time I'd ever heard of it.
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The idea that people would sign up and actively seek an affair seemed so cold and calculated to me.
You might think that makes me a hypocrite given that in my then-15 year marriage, I'd already had two affairs.
While my husband was a wonderful man, there had been something missing from my marriage for some time, leading me to seek affection, love and sex elsewhere.
But to me, that was different. Meeting someone 'organically' and embarking on a love affair had a level of innocence to it. I hadn't sought it out and there were genuine feelings involved; I hadn't been someone's dirty little secret.