Queensland mum Marie Robertson was on her 15th drink of the day when she had her epiphany on Australia Day in 2009.
The mother of five, and alcoholic of 25 years, realised she wasn’t drunk. Despite consuming drinks in the double digits, she hadn’t blacked out as she normally would. In a flash of rare clarity, she saw that the oblivion she usually chased wasn’t coming to save her.
“There I was, stuck with myself,” she now laughs. But back then, it was a literally sobering moment, and one that would change Marie’s life. Because in that moment, she decided to save her own life.
Marie had been an alcoholic since the age of 13, and she drank because she wanted to be someone else.
“I didn’t know what was wrong with me, but I knew I didn’t fit in,” the now 46 year old tells Mamamia.
“My mum was an alcoholic but that wasn’t why I drank – sure, it got me there faster, but it wasn’t the reason. I drank because I loved how I felt when I did. I was more confident, I could talk to the boys, play pool.
“I loved myself, drunk. I chased that feeling for 25 years.”
But for more than two decades of her life, Marie’s alcoholism was no laughing matter. Marie disease was combined with depression, although it would take five children, a marriage breakdown, an international move – and an Australia Day lightbulb moment – for Marie to understand it all.
Born in New Zealand, Marie met her future husband, Hamish, when she was 19, and the couple moved to Australia when she was 22. She was a waitress, he was a car salesman, and they loved to have a good time together.
“Hamish was a heavy drinker, but not an alcoholic,” Marie recalls. They went on to have a large family of five children, but Marie says she managed to control her drinking during her pregnancies.
“I tried my best, but I did do some things I wasn’t proud of,” she says. “I know I affected my kids the way my mother affected me.”
Now nine years sober, a pragmatic Marie can see clearly, and bravely admit without a waver in her voice that, “alcohol takes your mother away from you”.
But it wouldn’t be until that fateful Australia Day that Marie finally decided that she’d had enough of trying to escape from herself. She joined a 12-step program for alcoholics. It wasn’t easy to walk through those doors – and she didn’t enjoy it at first.
She chuckles, “I thought my life is over! What do people do that don’t drink?”
But what Marie encountered in her first meeting was an incredible, unexpected surprise.