Trigger warning: This post deals with suicide.
The biggest killer of Australians between the ages of 15 and 44 is suicide.
Jono Nicholas, chief executive of online support service ReachOut, has referred to the epidemic as a “national tragedy”.
But why do the rates differ so drastically between men and women? Gus Worland, co-host of the Sydney Triple M Grill team, has a theory, backed by some very convincing research.
The issue lies with two words. Two words that are part of our everyday lexicon. An expression that we throw away mindlessly, rarely giving its meaning a second thought.
Two words that encapsulate the toxicity of masculinity. When we tell someone to “man up” – we mean don’t admit defeat, be brave, be strong, reject empathy, take risks, be powerful and most all, never, ever cry. The demand, along with phrases like “harden up”, “suck it up” and “be a man”, are all a perfect recipe for depression, anxiety and violence.
“A good man is loyal, wouldn’t cheat on you or backstab you or say something behind your back. A good man, if he was to have a problem with you, he’d tell you. A good man is not afraid to get angry or afraid to get sad or afraid to be himself in front of other people. . I’m gonna teach my son to be a good man, to be whatever he thinks is a man. If he wants to be a man that’s tough and manly, go right ahead. If he wants to be a man that wants to be a nurse, I’ll support him. I’ll say to him that a man is someone who can do what ever job they want and a man is someone who’s strong, not physically, but strong enough to be who ever they want to be.” . Hendrik is one of our Real Aussie Blokes, a portrait series about the experience of being an Aussie man. Check them all out at www.realaussieblokes.com. . #ManUp #RealAussieBlokes #boxing #exercise #goodman #mentalhealth #gender #masculinity #support #family #loyalty #itsokaytotalk #itsokaytocry #men #boys #growingup #parenting #genderroles #smashthestigma