“Our relationship survived a gender transition… but not long-distance.”
Morgan Givens’ gender reassignment was survivable, and something that strengthened his relationship with his girlfriend. Her moving to Vermont was not.
Long-distance is tough. No matter how strong, solid, seemingly secure the relationship has been previously, when your relationship is stretched between cities or countries, it can very easily snap completely.
Fuelled by Skype, plane trips and longing phone calls across time zones, figures show around 40% of long-distance relationships will break-up. And the average time before this break-up is around 4.5 months.
And, it doesn’t get any better when you close that distance. A 2006 study found one third of long-distance relationships ended after closing the gap, and moving closer to one another. Things like a loss of autonomy, conflict, jealousy and a tough reality check were to blame. Apparently, distance can make the heart grow stronger, but the idealisation that comes with this dies when you are sitting by yourself night after night wondering if they are sitting by themselves or out with that workmate they keep talking about.
So, with these stats in mind we look to the true possibility of long-distance relationships actually working. The results are…. eye opening.
What are the chances?
You’re more likely to survive a plane crash than make a long-distance relationship work.
Between 1983 and 2000, there were 53,487 people on-board planes that crashed – 51,207 of these passengers survived. Your odds of survival? 95.74%.
You’re more likely to be shot by a gun AND SURVIVE, than making your long-distance relationship work.
Of possible places on the body to be shot, 80% of targets are not fatal. For every one bullet that kills, 20 other shots might not.
The chances of being hit by lightening are thankfully extremely slim (even more so than making a long-distance relationship work), but the chances of surviving a lightening strike are greater than making said relationship work.
Only one in 10 people who are struck by lightening will be killed by the strike. In comparison, four in 10 long-distance relationships fail.
And there’s more…
You have a greater chance of sharing your birthday with someone in a crowd of 25, than you do of making it through a long-distance relationship.
There’s similar odds that your job will be taken over by a robot by 2025, than there is of you ending it with your long-distance partner. Pretty high.
Horrifyingly, Donald Trump is more likely to win the Republican nomination for U.S. presidency, than you do of making your long-distance relationship work.
So, why are the chances so slim?
Obviously, there is, well… the distance. And with this comes the reality of not being involved in your partner’s everyday life. You don’t know what they’re eating for breakfast, how they get to work, the people or the places they ‘re seeing day-to-day, etc.