
“That guy is in the news again today,” I told my husband.
“What did he do again?”
I told him and then we both sat back and thought about the insanity of embezzling close to a million dollars from your father-in-law’s company.
“How’d you meet him again?” my husband asked.
“Through a friend,” I said.
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That’s not true since I’d never consider my ex a “friend”, but when I first started seeing his bandmate appearing in the news for such a high-level crime, I couldn’t help telling my husband that I’d known him.
I just chose, purposefully, to leave out his connection to my ex. I don’t want to talk about my ex, and neither does my husband want to hear about him.
This would easily be deemed a “white lie,” which Bella DePaulo and Deborah Kashy have argued can be seen as “compassionate offerings” that serve to maintain a relationship.
Trust, honesty, and vulnerability are crucial to maintaining a healthy relationship, but there are some LITTLE lies that can be okay to tell.
1. Making them feel better over something insignificant.
I’m currently five months pregnant, and like many pregnant women, I’ve been a bit insecure about how my body has changed.
I asked my husband what he thought. “You’re still a very attractive woman,” he told me.
“But I don’t look like how I did before.”