The cause? Her parents asked their adult children, who are in their 20s and 30s, to pay for an apartment when they came home for Christmas.
The children all have jobs, and the parents will be paying for the entire Christmas feast (alcoholic beverages included).
She wrote, “So basically, parents live in a small house. They want us to come home for Xmas, which we’re (me and siblings) happy to do, we all get on great. Except this year they are having some older family members over too who will understandably need to stay in their house for comfort reasons and there isn’t room for us all.”
She added that the parents wanted them to pay for a rented flat.
“So they want us kids to rent a flat (none of us live in hometown we are all driving up from different cities, 20s and 30s and all have jobs). They want us to pay for the rented flat. My sister thinks this is tight of them as its their choice to “summon” us back to the family home for xmas. She also thinks they have a 6 figure income and its just mean,” she wrote.
Bizarrely, she then said that her siblings and herself don’t eat that much at Christmas so it doesn’t even out which seems like a… strange argument.
“They think we’re adults and should pay our way as they usually sort out all the food and booze for xmas and they say that’s really expensive (I can appreciate that, although none of us are xmas binger types). My sister thinks this isn’t a valid reason as it is a normal part of being a parent, even to adult kids. As in another thread I saw on here, they don’t believe in helping us out financially in any way,” she wrote in the post, before asking whether it was “normal, a bit mean, or seriously mean” of the parents.
We have questions.
How is this weird when your parents are catering a feast for your entire extended family?
Who expects their parents to help them out financially?
And what exactly defines a Christmas ‘binger’ type?
The post had people seriously divided.
“Christmas dinner, crackers, drinks, etc. can run into hundreds of pounds! If you can afford it you should definitely payown accommodation. If you can’t, don’t go” wrote one user.
“I suppose you don’t have to go but it would be nice to make the effort for a family get together. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for you to pay for the flat. If your parents will be providing food and drinks for Christmas.” added another.
Others empathised with the matter.
“I can’t imagine putting my own DD in the same situation if I had the means to pay for her to stay in the flat,” said one user.
“Wouldn’t ask my children to come unless they’re staying with us. Other family members do not rate above your children,” said another.
Christmas just got very hectic.
And it’s only September.
Would you ask your adult children to pay for accomodation at Christmas? Tell us in the comments!