So often in life, we're quick to cast aside any remnants of a failed relationship, chalking the end to a mistake or regrets or years wasted, or simply not even acknowledging that this other person was once the centre of our universe, sometimes for a very long time. But what if we chose to see the end of a relationship as a blessing, something we were lucky to have experienced while it lasted?
Seasoned journalist and author Julia Baird has this refreshing, and fairly unique, take on why a failed relationship doesn't necessarily mean a failure in life. In a candid chat with Mia Freedman on a recent episode of No Filter, Julia opens up about the life-changing experience of losing her ex-partner, journalist Morgan Mellish, in the Garuda plane crash back in 2007 - and how a simple poem opened her eyes to a new way of seeing.
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"I read this poem by Jack Gilbert [called Failing and Flying] and the idea being people always forget that before Icarus fell, he flew," Julia explains. "And so often relationships are described as, 'Oh, it's a failed relationship because it didn't last,' as opposed to 'Oh, we had a few amazing years together' and then you work out it's not right and you have to make the really hard decision to say this can't be forever.