One of our favourite men wants to talk to you about your vagina.
It was with equal amounts of horror and sadness that I read a story about women in the UK injecting their vaginas with fillers. They are asking cosmetic surgeons do this to them because they are worried that what they see doesn’t look like what their partner sees in porn, and that they’re also worried about their vaginas ‘ageing’.
If this resonates with you at all – and I really hope it doesn’t – please allow me to respond from the perspective of a 41-year-old man in a committed, loving relationship, but who has spent some time doing field research on the subject, back when I was a single man.
Firstly – let’s get two things clear. In the words of my mate who’s a beautician (and she’s seen more women with their knickers off than we’ve had hot dinners), “Vaginas are like snowflakes, no two are alike.”
Trust me, innies, outies, big, small, lopsided – there’s no such thing as “normal”. You are already perfect.
And secondly, no man has ever said, “I was totally going to have sex with her, but I took her undies off and she was an outie – so I stood up, put my jeans back on and left.”