Ah, children. They’re such a blessing.
From the moment they’re delivered by The Stork into our loving embrace, they bring nothing but joy and calm into our world.
Look, every parent loves their kid more than life itself, but they’d also agree that sometimes, kids do not make life easy. They are often loud, occasionally inconvenient, and always expensive (because they need a lot of stuff)… which means being a parent comes with a lot of sacrifice.
Sure, we’re willing to do it – most of the time. And yes, it’s a labour of love, and we wouldn’t want it any other way… BUT. That doesn’t mean it’s a walk in the park.
Parenting is hard work; it demands your brain space, time, energy and finances.
This is something many don’t fully comprehend until they become a parent themselves. Because really, how could you? It’s impossible to anticipate with accuracy the sh*tshow of tears and demands (and that’s just from the parents) that having a child entails.
Which is why, when people who don’t have children, attempt to judge us for our parenting or how we’re handling/not handling that sh*tshow, we think that’s a bit harsh.
This is something one lady, user zebra1304, discovered when she posted on parenting forum website Mumsnet, asking “Is it really THAT hard to have kids?”
And yes, this brave woman, in her quest to ask a legitimate question which was completely devoid of accusation, capitalised “that“.
Explaining that over Christmas, she'd spent time with her partner's family, and was shocked by how "bloody difficult/expensive/tiring" they made being a parent sound, the woman was compelled to ask the group: "Is it really that hard?"
And if so, she added, "why don't they stop at one or two?"
Zebra1304 explained that she did not have children herself, but has "worked years in child care".
The post was met with a few women sharing their "so far, so good" experience of motherhood - with the reservation they knew that could and would change suddenly. Other mothers in the thread were more direct with zebra1304.