They say that you should never give with expectation. They are wrong. Because giving a gift without getting a thanks isn’t a nice feeling.
When I give a gift, it’s good to know that it’s appreciated. Even just a fake thank you at the time will do – some small acknowledgement that you appreciate the fact I was thoughtful enough to give you something. It’s just basic manners, and I’d do the same for you.
I’m certainly not an etiquette Nazi, but to me, thank you should be an integral part of everyone’s vocabulary – including children’s.
I once had a frenemy who would not only refuse to ever say thank you, she would never ask her kids to say thank you, either. Even when they were receiving gifts from anyone at one of the four children’s birthday parties I attended at her home each year.
Of course, I attended those annual parties for her four kids, and appreciated the fun my son had and that he was included, and the bubbles that were always served. But it would have been nice to get just one thank you from one of the kids, or my friend, for the time and effort we put into sourcing, purchasing, wrapping, (and sometimes returning home to retrieve) the gift we would give them.
Maybe I’m being unfair – the woman did have four kids after all, perhaps she was just too distracted/overwhelmed by the party to think about what anyone’s responses ‘should’ be.
And perhaps I’m old-fashioned – but if the new ‘thank you video‘ trend is anything to go by, I’m not the only person in the world who thinks saying thanks for a gift you’ve received is a thing.
Yes, sending a ‘thank you video’ of your child opening the gift someone gave them seems to be something parents are doing these days, and I’m all for it. With my own son, I used to send a photo him with the gift and big smile, so the giver knew that their efforts mattered to us.
So sending a video of a child unwrapping the present is merely one step before that, right?