I have a six-week-old baby. She’s my first child.
I used to be a nanny, I’m an auntie, and when one of my besties had her first baby I went down to four days a week at work so I could help her out once a week.
I thought I’d have some idea about having a baby.
Turns out, I have no idea what I’m doing.
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In my exhausted, sleep-deprived state I have asked friends, neighbours, health professionals and my sister’s mother-in-law for advice. And I've realised how many things we brand new parents have in common.
I was questioning whether I was ‘doing it right’ or worrying that I had never heard any friends talking about a particular problem, and when I asked around it seemed everyone had thought or done the same thing as me.
Maybe it’s COVID, or maybe the resources are just too stretched, but I never had a home visit from the nurse and my mother's group isn’t starting for a few weeks, so I started writing some things down. If you’re in your first week or weeks with a newborn, hopefully there’s something helpful.
I could write hundreds - but here are 25 things I’ve learned so far.
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1. “Three-hourly feeds” are measured from the start of one feed to the start of the next. Which, if you feed and settle the baby (maybe also pump/express), means you may get around 1.5-2hrs where you might be free. To sleep. Or do the washing. Or you might get a baby like mine, and do two-hourly feeds.