In the realm of guys’ sexual fantasies, being with a “squirter” probably ranks right up there. “Gushers,” or women who squirt regularly or a lot at a given time, can be considered utter figments of imagination, and women who do squirt may need a high level of comfort plus ample clitoral or G-spot stimulation to get there even once.
I’m a “gusher.” I squirt every time I have a clitoral orgasm (and I very easily have them), and the amount of liquid I release varies. I have told all my partners beforehand (I used to say I was warning them) because for people that have never been with a squirter before, it can be…surprising.
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It is such a regular part of my sexual experience that I do not feel satisfied without one. Vaginal penetration feels amazing if I have one right before, and it is always how I want to end a sexual encounter.
I didn’t discover I was a squirter until I was in college because I would find myself regularly holding back when I masturbated. When I finally did for the first time, I had a lot of shame around it. None of my friends talked about basically wetting the bed when they came, so I felt like there was something wrong with me.
Thankfully, porn and some enthusiastic partners helped ease my sense of uniqueness, but being a “gusher” has its share of drawbacks:
1. It’s messy.
American sex guru and co-author of the original G-spot book, Beverley Whipple says that typically, the amount of fluid released is around “half a coffee cup-full.” Other experts say some women can produce a quart of liquid at one time.
For this reason, squirting is messy. You have to be mindful of the surface you’re having sex on, and your bed must have a waterproof mattress cover and you must have spare clean sheets at all times. My current partner and I make sure to bring towels to bed with us too, but sometimes stopping to reach for a towel or changing position or place can seem like it’d kill the mood, so we just don’t want to. Therefore we may end up throwing the comforter, sheets, and mattress cover into the washer or trying to mop up the couch at nine o’clock at night.
We are hoping that purchasing a blanket like this one (waterproof and fleece) will help cut down on the mood-killing and laundry bills.
2. It can stain.
French gynecologist Samuel Salama and his colleagues studied seven women who report producing large amounts of fluid at orgasm. While two women’s fluids showed no difference chemically from their urine, the other five had a small amount of an enzyme not detected in their initial urine sample that they believe is part of “true” female ejaculate.