“I can guarantee you the best thing I ever did was I admitted to myself and a loved one that I’m actually not okay,” Sam Frost recalled on her mental health struggle.
This admission is hard, though. It opens up your deepest vulnerabilities. It focuses a glaring light on feelings you’ve been hiding; thoughts buried under self-condemnation and denial. It can seem like a ‘Pandora’s box’ of too-hard-basket concepts.
But this admission is something we need to get better at doing. We need to get better at acknowledging, and acting upon, the need for help.
Why? Because it’s estimated one in five women will experience depression at some point in their lives, and one in three will live with anxiety.
“Some people won’t seek help because they think they should be able to manage on their own, or they believe things aren’t ‘bad’ enough to consult a therapist,” explains Gold Coast psychologist Tess Collie.
“They might find the thought of talking through personal stuff with someone they don’t know daunting, or feel it’s better or easier to just avoid things,” Collie adds. “Often people are also frightened of change; they stick with the familiar even when the familiar is unhealthy or it downright sucks.”