Don’t expect a ‘happy birthday’ from me this year.
I already know what you’re thinking … here’s another self-absorbed, conceited opinion about nothing.
You’re wrong, and I am serious.
2017 is the year I am giving up wishing people ‘Happy Birthday’ on Facebook. I’m tired of getting the notification saying ‘5 friends have their birthdays today. Wish them all the best.’
How about no, Facebook.
In 2016, I was dishing out ‘Happy Birthdays’ to everyone. Whether I had known you for 10 years or 10 minutes, you were getting a birthday message for me.
It was my way of being polite. I felt better for it. I was delusional enough to think I was bringing a smile to a someone else’s face… even if I didn’t really know what their face looked like.
I was also wrong.
At 7am when I would wake up to be greeted by that incessant birthday notification, I would always oblige. I would try to alter the message slightly in case my friends saw each others’.
They would look a little like this:
Friend #1: “Happy Birthday! Have an amazing day x”
Friend #2: “Have an amazing birthday! Can’t wait to celebrate x”
Friend #3: “Happy Birthday! Can’t wait to see you x”
After a while, it got worse.
I found myself ‘cutting and pasting; “Happy Birthday!! xx” on EVERYONE’s timeline (the extra ‘x’ to mask the fact that I was being terribly discourteous.) It was a quick and easy solution. It was a way to wish them a happy birthday without having to think about it.
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And that is where it all started.
These messages were fake, manufactured and insensitive.