When I was heavily pregnant with my baby, sore and swollen and ready, everyone told me not to wish away the time.
“You just wait until they’re here,” they said. “It goes by so fast.”
When my son was born and I took home a tiny baby everyone told me how fast the time goes.
“Enjoy the newborn snuggles,” they said. “It’s over in a blink of an eye and the next thing you know they’re walking.”
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Everyone told me how fast the time goes by, but I’m here to ask you to please think first before you say that to a new mother.
It’s well meaning. It comes from experience. It’s true. But it can also make a first time mum feel like there’s a rush.
Because maybe she’s really trying to savour the tiny fresh baby snuggles but it’s hard because she’s anxious. She’s never done this before. She’s second guessing everything.
She keeps hearing how fast the time goes, and how big her baby will be soon. She feels guilty that she wishes the hours away in the afternoons until it’s bed time because she can’t stop the baby crying, no matter what she tries.
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Seriously. We can't say anything to new mums without them getting offended it seems. All new mums prattle on about is how magical their little cherub is and how hard their life is, then when anyone tries to show interest it's taken as an offence. Maybe society should just ignore them all together.
I was in a park on Christmas Eve with my 2 year old son and feeding my 3 month old daughter (I have since had 2 more kiddies) when a very nicely dressed lady with a brief case walked passed me and smiled. Later that day I was at a Coles checkout when the same lady came up to me and said 'I saw you in the park with your kids and you are a wonderful mum'. I've had heaps of people tell me 'it goes by so fast' and I don't remember any of them. But I will always remember THAT lady. Forget the negative and unhelpful. Remember the positive and kind.