By JOSEFA PETE
Sixteen hours of labour and weeks of newborn mummy fog and I could start ticking off the check-list. Sleep deprivation – check. Baby brain – check. Swollen breasts – check. No libido – check. Wait up, what?
In my state of being so prepared for my first baby, I perhaps was not prepared at all. Maybe nothing can really prepare you for parenthood and as a mother perhaps nothing can really prepare you for the changes that your body will go through.
Just as an FYI, you should know that this post is sponsored by Lights by Tena. But all opinions expressed by the author are 100 per cent authentic and written in their own words.
Parenting books, baby forums, an endless stream of opinions and the conversation post-delivery tells us about a lot, but leaves just as many things in the dark. In a society so focused on looking in the mirror judging what we see and ticking the boxes: body image? expectation? fitting in? It is time we put the mirror aside and start focusing on what we can see without it, and to change the conversation.
Here are five things in your body that can’t be found with a mirror:
1. A lump in your breast: the conversation is well oiled for the absolute need to check our breasts. Whether it is in the shower, in between the sheets or even just getting ready in the morning, checking to see if there is anything we need to be concerned about. The conversation cannot fall silent, younger generations of women need to know how important this is and keep on checking.
2. The elusive g-spot: yes, yes I know the g-spot. Yet another conversation that we need to shed the taboo of. Sexual intimacy and the pleasure that can and should be achieved through this intimacy is often something only spoken about in the dark, if at all. Goodness knows post-baby sexual intimacy is just another thing left out of the parenting books, when it deserves a whole chapter.