When it comes to figuring out men, it sometimes pays to skip the girl talk and head straight to the source. This column is my advice on your most burning questions about guys. And since I’m gay, I’m kind of halfway inside your head already. Let’s dive in!
This week, you asked:
“I’ve been with my current boyfriend for four years and we’re in a committed and loving relationship. Recently I found out my ex boyfriend of six years (from the ages of 15 to 21) is getting married. We have been ‘friends’ (I use that term loosely, as we do only talk when we’re around mutual friends) since we broke up, and I would never want us to get back together but my question is; Is it weird for me to be upset that my ex is getting married?”
I’ve always felt that if you ever truly loved someone, the love would never go away.
Maybe it quickly morphs into hatred, or you realise with time that it’s insignificant in comparison to the relationships that follow. But either way, all great loves are impossible to forget.
I reckon this is simply a scab that has been forcefully ripped open. And all scabs are the same: painful at first, impossible to leave alone, but destined to disappear.
Instead of avoiding this or allowing it to consume you, why not choose to treat this as the final stage of your post-breakup healing process?
How do you actually know if you’re in love with the person you’re dating? We have some thoughts. Post continues after video.