We would all ogle at her, hold her, speak to her and generally just be amazed at this little person who had joined us in the big, wide world. For me as a first-time mother, this time was precious and joyful. My daughter met important people in my life, who would now be an important part of hers.
The first few weeks at home, even with my husband with me, were some of toughest of my life.
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Yes, I loved my daughter but I struggled (as many do) immensely with sleep deprivation, post-natal depression and adjusting to my new role as a mother. For me, having my own mum visit us a few times a week was a great support and integral for me in getting through that time.
But there’s a growing trend in parenting where introducing newborns to family and friends or having them visit you at home are a no-go and isolating yourself with your baby is priority. It is called cocooning.
Cocooning is defined as “an intensive time of care” where parents bring their baby home and live in isolation for weeks or even months. They are the “only people to hold, change, feed, touch, kiss, comfort, and play with baby/child.”
The house essentially becomes a cocoon for your immediate family.
The process of cocooning means that visitors are prohibited from the house, the child doesn’t leave the house and new family members won’t be introduced for a set period of time. This includes grandparents.
For years cocooning has been a common method used by adoptive parents to generate a bond with their adopted child. Now this trend is expanding outside adoptive families, with more and more parents choosing the process.
Clinical psychologist, Dr Judith Locke describes ‘cocooning’ as a form of attachment parenting, where the aim is to establish a strong bond with your baby, often through physical connection and closeness.
She views the method as offering potential benefits to fostered or adopted children who have perhaps experienced trauma in their past. “By offering a calm space for the child they are able to get used to their new environment.”