I’ve noticed a little trend floating around on social media and in parenting circles and I vehemently disagree with it, so I am here to tell you why you should too.
It seems to be popular for parents to peddle a myth that once you decide to settle down and have a family, this automatically means saying goodbye to all the other great things in your life, like holidays, grown-up telly and sleep. But, one of the saddest opinions I keep hearing is that once becoming a parent, you must relinquish all friends who have yet to hit this milestone too. And don’t even think about the ones who have decided nappies and nap times aren’t for them at all, and have chosen to remain child free by choice.
Apparently, choosing to expand your family means slimming down your squad and I’m not here for that one bit.
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I was the first in my friendship group to have a baby and I can honestly say it hasn’t affected our relationships at all. In fact, I often say that being the only parent around child-free pals is brilliant.
They are the ultimate friends with benefits. Unlike with other parents, they have no ‘cherubs’ of their own to bathe and wrestle into a pair of pyjamas, and are usually willing to throw you a favour every once in a while so you can wear lipstick (and a bra) and leave the house after dark. Ooh, think of where you could go! A club; the pub; the cinema? Sure, sex is great but when was the last time you got to eat a whole treat size bag of Caramello Koalas without hiding under the stairs and stuffing the empty packet in your sock drawer? Plus, offspring-free adults are also far more likely to be available for a last minute wine and whine sesh and sometimes, after a day of potty training and Thomas the Tank Engine, this can be a lifeline.
I was nervous to be the first to upset the social apple cart by having a baby, but my friends have been an amazing support since day one. Fears that I would be left holding the baby while they had beach days and boozy Sunday lunches were unfounded. When we do meet up with the family, I hardly see the kids all day. They enjoy cuddles from their aunties and uncles while I nurse a large Sauvignon.