I’m a single 35-year-old woman and have always had a strong desire to be a mother. At 32 I froze my eggs so I continue to cover my bases as I age. But with each year that goes by, the yearning for a picture perfect, white picket fence life with a husband and two kids lessens.
And here’s why...
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1. Do I even want to bring new people into this world?
COVID sucks, terrorism is beyond scary, and climate change lingers. Is it fair to put more people through this stress and uncertainty that only seems to grow and expand? Will fulfilling my maternal cravings simply result in my offspring living a life of pain and hardships?
2. The majority (yes, majority) of my friends are with very average blokes.
Settling (or batting below) is a thing you do as your age and desperation increases. It’s also super common when you’re from a small town like I am. I escaped to a bigger city at 23, but back home divorce rates continue to skyrocket among school buddies of mine who married young. At a lunch with five mum friends recently, the common theme seemed to be that their men contribute little to fatherly or household responsibilities.
Despite this catchup falling on a weekend, every single child had been dropped to a grandparent’s house. “Oh god, Michael would never babysit solo while I’m at something like this,” one of the ladies freely exclaimed.
I'm sorry, WHAT? Am I living in an alternate universe right now?
I thought the old 'Stepford Wife' stereotype was dead and buried? Since when is sperm donor the only partner prerequisite? I want a loving, supportive equal who doesn’t refer to looking after his own kids as “babysitting.”
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3. I live a life of complete freedom and independence.
I decide what I want, when I want it. I answer to nobody and every dollar I make is mine (and the tax man’s).
Am I free for brunch tomorrow? Sure am!
Should I book an afternoon massage? Why not!
Can I have a big night tonight and a guilt free hangover tomorrow? You bet!