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14-year-old family violence victim Lilly writes: "We’re still not safe."

Thousands of women and children are hurt by violence in the home every year. That abuse could be violent, sexual, emotional or financial. Kids are hurt because this family abuse can prevent them from growing up, going to school, getting jobs or becoming happy adults. Lilly is 14 years old and lives in regional NSW. She is a Youth Ambassador for Save the Children Australia.

These issues mean a great deal to me because I was a victim of incest. I know how frustrating it can be going through the courts to try and get justice or even protection.

It’s been impossible for me and my mum to get legal protection from the person who sexually abused me. The whole process was nothing short of awful. And I was only ten years old at the time and attempting to support my mother with her own domestic violence situation.

These women shared their experiences of sexual violence on Twitter. Post continues after video…

Since then I have been receiving treatment for anxiety and depression. It breaks my heart to think that other children have to be dragged through that same thing.

Our experience shows that the legal process can be needlessly difficult for kids to get the protection that they need and deserve.

Last week at the National Press Club, Rosie Batty said what many Australian kids and teenagers like me desperately want to hear: there are ways to protect women and children safe from abuse.

Women and children’s safety can come at a high price, with many paying exorbitant legal fees after going through the Family Court system or finding the legal process almost as traumatising as the abuse they received.

As I write, police have dealt with 447 family violence matters today. That’s one day on average. That’s one every two minutes and around 5,000 per week.

It breaks my heart to think that other children have to be dragged through that same thing. (Image supplied.)

But even once the police are called, we’re still not safe and have to go through the Family Court system. Not only is the system expensive, it’s not accessible for Indigenous Australians or people who have English as a second language.

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Many families represent themselves because it’s too expensive to afford a lawyer and there isn’t enough funding for Legal Aid. That places women and children in a situation where they could be questioned by the person who abused them – which can be like going through that abuse all over again.

You might say this isn’t Australia’s problem and that we should find our own money to get legal protection and get away from abuse. But you don’t realise how much domestic violence and other forms of abuse cost you already. Why do we have to pay to receive the protection we deserve?

Think of it this way: a 2011 report by Our Watch estimates that domestic violence costs Australia $13 billion a year. That’s over a quarter of our current budget deficit that we could fix: getting women back to work, kids in school and able to focus on their education, and affordable housing, all result in families being able to contribute more to Australia.

Scott Morrison delivered a budget that was lacking in domestic voilence funding, according to Rosie Batty.

It was so welcome to hear Rosie Batty call for a five step road map to protect vulnerable women and children: help abused families by giving specialist support in family courts, protect and support people at risk from being abused again, step in early with legal support, help abused families financially recover from abuse and teach everyone in the legal system understand what domestic violence actually means and how it can damage us.

These are steps that I know would help thousands of Australians – whether it is to finally live safe from harm or go through the legal process quickly and with appropriate support.

While we see endless political debate about things like “jobs and growth”, it is more important for me and my family to see action on the important issue of family violence. Not only because we’ve lived through abuse but because the safety of every Australian family is important.

That’s why family violence and protection are election issues. Think of your family and vote for their safety.

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