“Just do one more. Just one more feed, and then decide if you want to give up or not.”
It was 2pm and I was at the end of yet another phone call with my friend Donna. I was struggling to breastfeed my second child, and it was just so painful. I felt like I couldn’t manage it even one more time.
Each feed I’d grimace as my little boy tried to latch on and for 45 excruciating minutes I’d try not to cry. After each feed, as I tended to my cracked, sore and bleeding nipples, I’d tell myself that I couldn’t face it again. I’d have to stop breastfeeding him. I felt heartbroken.
So I’d call Donna. She wasn’t a breastfeeding expert – just another mum and trusted friend who had struggled to breastfeed and done her best to get through it. Each time I rang her she’d help me get through one more feed. And another, and then another.
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“A very few first-time-mothers do master the new skills easily but most are surprised how much effort is usually involved in getting their unique combination of baby and boobs comfortably in sync in the early days and weeks after the birth,” Lois says.
“Does anyone get their driver’s licence after one or two driving lessons? It takes time and practice to become competent and confident, and for it to become enjoyable. Breastfeeding is the same and the rewards of succeeding are profoundly satisfying. New mums need to give themselves some time, and a good instructor helps a lot.”
And I did have good instructors. I had experts at the hospital to help me out, a lactation consultant who visited me at home and amazing friends like Donna. I had all the ingredients to become good at breastfeeding. I just needed to cut myself some slack.
Because it wasn’t my fault I had ridiculously small nipples that all three of my children struggled to latch onto. I didn’t know that attempts at latching on could cause painful damage I’d be nursing for weeks. I had no idea what mastitis felt like.