New research from Robert Larzelere and Sada Knowles from Oklahoma State University has found there is a ‘best practice’ when it comes to ensuring you don’t release terrifying monster-children into the world.
The study titled Toddlers Need Both Positive Parenting and Consistent Consequences From Mothers, broke parenting styles into two varieties – positive and behavioural. The former uses compromise and open dialogue to encourage the child to adopt good behaviours, while followers of the latter assert their authoritarian power to control and negate bad behaviour.
It’s important to note, however, that the study doesn’t demonising either style, but instead looks at how both techniques can be used in certain situations in the most effective manner possible.
Scientists analysed the disciplinary techniques of 102 mums and their toddlers, and determined processes to reduce various levels of “non-compliance” in toddler-aged children, essentially science-speak for how to calm down your toddler whether you’re being faced with a full-blown meltdown to minor squabble.
We’ve listed their best tips below.
How to quell any tantrum.
When you’re in the middle of aisle three in Coles and the proverbial shit is about to hit the fan, Larzelere and Knowles found that “offering compromises” was most effective tactic for “the immediate reduction in noncompliance, regardless of type”.
Don’t – match their temper.