Returning to work (RTW) after parental leave can be an exciting but potentially daunting experience for many people. It’s normal for RTW parents to feel a raft of emotions from excitement to guilt, shame, fear, being overwhelmed, and even gratitude when we come back to work.

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1. Get clear on expectations – at work and at home.

"I’ve been able to make a meal, breastfeed and clean dishes at once, so I can say motherhood has certainly given me some extra life skills." Image: Getty

As you plan your return to work, having conversations up-front with your line manager, team and even sometimes your peers is a critical first step. This is especially true if you’re stepping into a role that previously was full time and probably needs to be re-scoped.

Like any role, it’s important to get clarity on what success looks like and how you will deliver it. Be clear with your line manager on what support you also need from them to help you meet your objectives.

On the home front there is a heap of uncertainty around childcare, how the new routine will work, and how you go with divvying up domestic duties.

Talk through possible situations with carers to understand their approach in looking after your child and how that aligns to your own expectations. Chat with your partner about what life might be like on your return to work and what is important to both of you for a happy home life.

How will you both contribute to that vision? Consider how you will divide up household duties such as drop offs, pick ups, cleaning, cooking and bedtimes.

2. Think effectiveness, not hours in the office.

3. Be clear on your boundaries.

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4. Your mental and physical wellbeing is not an afterthought.

Also, mindset matters. Observe your thoughts as you plan your return and how they might be influencing your feelings.

Thoughts around limited career progression, remaining relevant and fear of not managing the juggle are really common, but might not help your self-confidence. I've found chatting through it with friends or colleagues helps to challenge the assumptions I could be making.

Final words.

Aim to be present, courageous and open in communication and most importantly, be kind to yourself.

Rina is a mum of two and a leader in business transformation.She has a passion for empowering others to understand how change impacts them and how they can take charge of their own experience.