Attending a wedding, as we all know, can be an expensive exercise.
You’ve got the gift, the outfit, travel costs, and in some cases, the accommodation.
And that’s not including the money you may have already spent on an engagement gift, bridal shower, bucks show or hens.
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With all that in mind, being instructed to pay a fee in advance for a wedding may rub some people the wrong way.
…Especially if it’s spelled out on the invitation.
This seemed to be the case when one bride-to-be asked her guests to pay $325 to secure their place at her wedding, including her bank details on the invitation.
Posting on parenting site Netmums, a woman explained her sister-in-law’s wedding was going to be a weekend-long affair, a couple of hours away from where they live.
“Invitations recently went out and my husband and I were a little shocked to see that alongside RSVP info was bank details to pay $325 (£180) to secure our place at the wedding!” she wrote.
Top Comments
Who on earth agrees to go to these ridiculous "weddings"? These narcissistic blow-outs of self-indulgence are out of control. Just send a card and call it a day. No is a lovely word when used appropriately.
Wedding etiquette says you shouldn’t put those things on a formal wedding invitation.( If it costs that much to stay there then the wedding isn’t a BBq in a motel yard). So it’s formal.
The bridal registry supplies cards that are included in the envelope, but it’s rude to put the info on the invitation itself. Same for other logistical material- money, transport, directions. Ideally that would be seperate altogether. Money matters are seen as too crass to mention openly, and especially not on the invite itself.
I agree that guests can enquire about accommodation themselves. I also agree with the commenter that says it’s the groom being rude too.
Now, at an informal wedding, many rules fly out the window.