Welcome to ‘Ask Rosie’, the space on Mamamia where you can contact me with all of your love and relationship dilemmas (including but not limited to eyebrow crabs).
I’m 28 whole years of age, so I’m fairly certain I know everything and will be able to give you ridiculously useful advice.
Consider it my selfless Oprah-style gift to humanity. Cliche cliche etc etc sassy advice cliche. You’re welcome.
Let’s get into it:
I have this great friend. We’ve gone out together a fair bit recently and we’re texting all the time and I’m starting to really like him and sort of want something more than friendship.
I’m not sure if I should tell him how I feel or not because I don’t want it to become awkward between us and I have no idea where he stands on the whole thing. I’m worried about being rejected and then our whole friendship being over.
The thing is, I’m going away for 12 months, and I figure I might as well take a chance and tell him, but I’m just worried it’ll screw up our friendship and ruin any future chance of us being more than friends.
Is it worth putting everything on the line and telling him? Or should I just move on…
I’m really, really glad you’ve come to me with this problem Anon, because I’ve been waiting for the perfect opportunity to share one of my favourite secret moves for a while now.
It’s called ‘The Tell and Bail’, and I’ve been perfecting it for most of my life. I’m pretty sure it will work perfectly in your current situation.
The Tell and Bail is my way of dropping information super-bombs without having to face any awkward and/or embarrassing interactions that may occur as a direct result of the big reveal.
You basically drop an info-bomb, THEN YOU GET THE HELL OUTTA THERE. You tell, and then you bail.
Going away for 12 months means you are in the perfect position to use The Tell and Bail.
You like this guy. You say you’re worried about ‘ruining the friendship’, but if you already like him then the friendship is already over, my friend.
What you’re really concerned about is the major humiliation you could be facing if he doesn’t return your feelings. And who wouldn’t be? Nothing is worse than being that straight-up about a crush and getting rejected, so I completely understand your hesitation at ending up with a face redder than your broken heart.