On Monday, Julie Tanner and her daughter Paige went out for a day of shopping.
They parked their car in a disabled parking spot at their local shopping centre in Reading, England – the Tanners have a disability permit for their 23-year-old daughter who is severely mentally disabled.
When they returned to their car some time later, they found an abusive note under the windscreen wiper.
“I witnessed you and your young, able bodied daughter park the car at 13.10 on 19 Feb 2018 and walk towards the precinct with no sign of disability,” the handwritten note read.
“This selfish action deprives a disabled person of somewhere to park. You will be reported for illegal use of a [disabled parking] space.”
Paige’s father Alan shared the note on his Facebook page as a reminder not to “judge a book by its cover”.
“This was a letter left on my wife’s car today, when in Woodley precinct with Paige, she was parked in a disabled parking space. Paige has got a valid Disabled badge,” he wrote alongside a picture of the note.
“So to the person that wrote this letter, do not judge unless you know the full details of someone’s disability. Paige is not a young girl as you stated but a 23 year old adult who is severely mentally disabled and requires 1:1 support at all times.
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Ok, look, I understand the need for disability permits - my father was completely blind and I had a parking permit I used whenever I took him to appointments - but how does being mentally disabled (I presume they are talking about an intellectual disability like Down Syndrome) necessitate a disability parking permit? How does their intellectual disability impact on physical ability re walking from parking spot?
I think that the public needs to take things at face value here. If they have a valid disabled sticker, then we as outsiders need to assume that the relevant authority has seen a need for this person to have a sticker. I don't think that people should be forced to discuss their personal medical history with random strangers who don't think they look disabled enough.
If she has the parking permit, then her doctor has signed off on it and it's been accepted by the authorities in her area. Any more information than that is frankly not anyone else's business.
Sometimes people with intellectual disabilities are impetuous. In a car park they are apt to behave like a toddler and run out in front of cars without thinking. They’re also very prone to frustration and tantrums as they try to deal with life as an adult body with a child or toddlers mind. The parent or carer may need to leave fast in order to preserve their own, the child’s, or public safety.
That’s why they’re eligible for disabled parking.
As someone with an invisible disability who has a disability parking permit, I'm sadly not surprised this happened to this poor family. I look healthy, but struggle to walk far. I've had looks from people judging me as not being disabled although I've never been confronted, I'm sure it will happen sometime. People need to realise that not all disabled people use wheelchairs. Unless you are that person's doctor it is not your position to judge somebody's need for a permit.
As for people who park in disability parking without permits - you are free to judge, write angry notes and report. I don't care if you're only there for a moment, that moment could stop someone being able to access things you take for granted.