Content warning: This post contains mentions of sexual assault some may find triggering.
If you were to ask people what they think of Amy Schumer’s style of comedy you’re sure to hear a lot of different words.
Honest. Low-brow. Polarising. Gross. Disarming. Relatable. Important.
The 36-year-old comedian from New York is both passionately loved by her fans and passionately hated by her critics (and Trump supporters), but she’s always been consistent in using her comedy as a vehicle to discuss topics we don’t talk about enough.
Since first starting her breakthrough Comedy Central sketch comedy series Inside Amy Schumer in 2013, the I Feel Pretty and Trainwreck actress has been referencing her personal relationship and dating experiences to highlight issues like sexism, body image and double standards when it comes to sex.
Consent is another she’s touched on, alluded to and danced around.
Now, Schumer has spoken candidly to Oprah about the experience of losing her virginity “through rape”. Specifically, something she calls ‘grey area rape’.
Listen to Schumer speak about her rape below. Post continues after video.
“I call it grape: grey-area rape,” the comedian said on an episode of SuperSoul Conversations.
“I personally feel like I lost my virginity through rape. I didn’t consent. We hadn’t discussed it. We weren’t there in our relationship. We weren’t at that moment.”
For Schumer, giving her experience of rape with her then-boyfriend a label makes it easier to explain to her audiences that rape isn’t always violent and at the hands of a stranger.
1800 RESPECT reports rape can often involve partners, husbands or wives, ex partners, parents or family members, friends and casual sexual partners.
“When we hear about rape when we’re children and being warned about it, it’s about a guy popping out from behind a bush and some villain,” she said.
“They don’t say it’s probably going to be a guy you know really well. It could be your husband. It could be your friend.
“For me, I lost my virginity when I was asleep, and that’s not okay. So, in my stand-up, I would say, ‘If she’s asleep, that’s a no.’ Just hoping that a couple guys would see that and it would be met in that moment, like, ‘This is a no. I heard that somewhere.’ I hoped they could laugh while they learned.”
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Schumer is now married to 37-year-old chef and cookbook author Chris Fischer. But her message about consent is clear.
There’s no one way to be raped.
A lack of consent is often the only common denominator linking sexual assault survivors.
You can watch the full SuperSoul Conversations interview with Amy Schumer on YouTube.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence or sexual assault, please seek professional help and contact 1800RESPECT on