Are you used to that word yet? Yep, you’re a mum. You made a little human, well done you. And while you’re staring into the face of that little person you may be thinking, what the f$#% just happened?
The movies and TV often depict that moment of pure joy, that overwhelming sense of, I’ve got this, look at this beautiful creature and everyone rides off into the sunset on a pristine white unicorn galloping on a rainbow bridge.
And for some of you this may very well be the case. But for others you will be very sore, exhausted and shell-shocked to your very core and you may not feel joy just yet, and that’s okay. It’s normal. Your body and mind just went through a massive change of events. It is okay to be numb. The feels will come.
Listen: Monique Bowley and Bec Judd discuss everything you need to know about those first few days with bub. (Post continues.)
Please do not put any pressure on yourself. NO ONE (see, it’s in caps so it must be important and right) knows what they are doing the first time. You can read all the books and all the posts on the net, but it won’t solve every answer for you. You will make mistakes and that’s okay. Hate to break it to you, but babies are already wired to have likes and dislikes. The manual gets somewhere lost in the delivery so you have to fend for yourself.
There will be times where you feel completely out of control and out of your depth. There is a reason why sleep deprivation is a torture technique. If you have people to lean on them, lean on them, please. Don’t feel you have to do it all yourself because as that’s not best for your child. If you don’t look after yourself, you can’t look after your baby. This won’t always be the case, so take those little moments to rest when you can.
It is ok to make mistakes. Embrace them. Learn from them. A lot a trial and error will happen as you and your baby find your feet. Laugh and move on. Remember, this is all new to them too. You will have days where the littlest thing will make you cry and days where you feel like Wonder Woman. Remember that’s life, light always follows darkness, so although it may not feel like it at the time, the crap times will pass.
Follow your gut instinct. Nine out of ten times it will be right. You think you know nothing, but there’s nothing like instinct and you know your baby. Listen, to what your gut is saying and act on that.