This post deals with domestic violence and might be triggering for some readers.
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It's been over a year since I realised that I needed to escape.
That staying with a controlling, and psychologically abusive person was harming my kids more in the long run, than the effects of leaving and starting a whole new life.
That maybe, just maybe, if I had the strength to endure this treatment for so many years, that I could find the strength to leave.
And so I left... or started the grueling process of leaving.
Over a year later the most common question I’ve been asked is: “Why did you stay?”
For those of you who have never been in a relationship like this one, that sadly so many of us have been, I thought I would try to answer that burning question.
Many assume it is simply the idea of breaking up a family that keeps us in the cycle of abuse. But I am here to say, no. That is not what made me stay.
We stay because we have been controlled and manipulated to believe that we have no other viable options. There are often elements of financial control among a lot of other seemingly simple reasons that keep us in 'it'. But they are not simple… not simple at all.
Watch: The signs of an abuser, told through his victim's phone. Post continues after video.