Wife and mother-of-three Sara Collins says sex is no longer important in her marriage and has in the past offered to pay for her husband to visit a sex worker, if sex was “that important to him”.
Now that’s a loaded statement if I’ve ever heard one.
Sara, 46 says she and husband Graham, 47 no longer have sex and sleep in separate bedrooms. She say sex petered out after they had children – Ella, 15, Jude, 11 and Jake, seven – and they don’t have any interest in having sex, even though she still fancies him.
They used to have a healthy sex life however things then became complicated. “I had a number of miscarriages so when I did get pregnant Graham didn’t want to touch me for safety reasons,” she told UK television show This Morning. “Then when I was breastfeeding he found it inappropriate for us to have sex.”
Sara and Graham began sleeping in separate bedrooms a decade ago, with Sara saying it was to ensure they each got a restful night’s sleep.
“‘I snore and he snores and I get fidgety in the night as I have ME so it seemed logical to have separate rooms.” ME/CFS stands for Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome which is inflammation of the brain and spinal cord.
Sara says sex is not “at the forefront” of her mind but she still fancies her husband. She says they are in agreement that they can have a happy marriage without sex.