Working mothers produce higher-achieving daughters and more domestically useful sons. Hallelujah.
Did you have to cut short the Mother’s Day breakfast at school because you had to get to work on time?
Did you miss the note about the family history project that was due in last Thursday? Or did you have to skip the class morning tea so you could make that management meeting?
Do you, like me, live in a constant juggle of well if I go to the assembly then I can skip the museum trip and hopefully my kids won’t notice?
I DID go to the swimming carnival so hopefully he won’t mind if I DON’T go to the athletics one?
“Sure I will try my hardest to be there. I’ll see you tonight to finish that book. I promise.”
A virtual spreadsheet in your mind. Time put in, time missed out. Hopefully equalling a balanced child.
It’s the classic working mother’s guilt so many of us suffer from.
You worry whether you have put your career first, whether you can afford the child care fees, whether you are giving enough of yourself, whether you are letting down the kids, whether you are letting down your employer or clients. You worry that you never see your partner anymore. You worry that you are doing the wrong thing by your kids.
You just plain old f*cking worry about everything.
Well finally, FINALLY there is a study for us. FINALLY a study showing that having a working mother can have economic, educational and social benefits for kids.
Did you read that?
Not just no discernible damage, but Benefits.
The study of 50,000 adults across 25 countries including Australia showed that daughters had the greatest benefits with daughters of working mums completing more of their education and more likely to be employed.
The study from the International Social Survey Program found 69 per cent of women who had a working mum ended up employed with 22 per cent employed as supervisors.
For stay-at-home mums – 66 per cent were employed, with 18 per cent at supervisor level.
It also showed that women who had mums who worked outside the home ended up being paid 6 per cent more than those whose mums stayed at home.