“I want you to have all the information I never had access to before this person destroyed me.”
One woman is on a mission to make sure her abusive ex-boyfriend doesn’t make his new girlfriend his next victim.
She says she was inspired to spread the word after discovering her ex had been having unprotected sex with her and at least five other women. “I wanted to do everything I could to make sure all parties involved had the information they need,” she says.
“I hope you’ll take this as just a gentle warning to be careful and fully aware about what is going on during the course of your interaction with him; something I never had the opportunity to be.
“Please watch out for any warning signs of abuse; our relationship started a lot like yours, probably: developing super quickly, telling me he loves me right away, trying to get me to be exclusive with him as soon as possible, all this crazy passion, and all really, really quick.”
The woman said the duo began dating in April and, in May, she discovered she was pregnant. She had an abortion – an experience she found “extremely scarring”. By late June, her partner was acting strange and dropping hints that he had been checking up on her. She discovered he had been logging into her email account up to 10 times a day.
“I thought that was it, that I was done with the disrespect, done with all of it. I tried to cut it off then, but got reeled back in, as one is wont to do when getting involved with sociopaths. ProTip: put secondary verification on all your accounts NOW.”
The woman – who is not identified in the document – said though she had seen him throw things and had been pinned down by him once before, the real violence started in July “when he would routinely throw my things around my room, breaking my possessions, destroying my apartment … it was pretty bad, but I chalked it up to a simple anger management issue instead of what it really was: a flashing bright indicator of the abuse that would follow”.
“He started to get physical with me shortly thereafter, first just leaving a few small bruises here or there, pulling my fingers back just to the edge of spraining them, grabbing into and twisting flesh to leave intense red marks, shoving, throwing small blows, etc. Then one night, things escalated.”