When this woman’s husband left her halfway through her first pregnancy, she was heartbroken. Now, she’s about to have her baby, and she doesn’t want him there. What should she do?
My husband and I were already having serious problems before I fell pregnant. He was working long hours and had become distant. I tried everything… romantic dinners, giving him space, buying him his favourite foods…nothing worked.
When I told him I was pregnant he seemed excited but sad at the same time. I felt sick. He said he was happy about the baby but he didn’t want to talk about it very much. While I poured over books and information and went baby clothes shopping he seemed pensive.
It was after my 20 week ultrasound that he sat me down for a talk.
He said he wasn’t in love with me and didn’t want to be married to me any more. I couldn’t breathe.
Apparently he’d been planning to leave me before I fell pregnant but when I told him I was, he realised he couldn’t risk my health and our child’s health. He talked to his family (they knew!) and decided to wait until I had my 20-week ultrasound before he broke up with me. He seemed to want credit for that. I wanted to kill him.
I’m ashamed to say I begged for him to say. “We’re having a baby, I love you” I told him while he packed, in front of me, like I was trapped in a ridiculously bad movie.
Now I’m due in a couple of weeks and it’s been the most difficult period of my life. I’ve never felt so alone but replacing the sadness is anger. I feel like he not only dumped me, but our child too.