by MONTY DIMOND
Is there an expiry date to calling our partners “Boyfriend” or “Girlfriend” once we reach a certain age? I’ve been in a relationship for eight years with the same man and last year we welcomed our first offspring (a baby boy who we are rather fond of).
In between getting together and spawning a child there hasn’t been any wedding bells. I am completely aware we bought a one way ticket straight to hell for having our child out of wedlock but we are both ok with this.
Marriage has never been part of our plans… we have discussed it a few times but never felt the need to actually tie the knot. We are rather content in our ringless relationship. For the last eight years we have proudly called each other ‘Boyfriend’ and ‘Girlfriend’ and this has worked brilliantly for us.
I never gave it a second thought… until I turned 30 and became a mum. Now that I am all grown up and real mature, calling Sam* my “boyfriend” doesn’t seem to fit anymore . (*I will refer to my boyfriend as Sam…because that is his actual name.)
Because we are raising a child together it seems like we need a title that makes our relationship sound a little more solid. Boyfriend gives the feeling that at any moment his best mate might tell me I’m dropped and ask me to return his Green Day CD.
The worst part is getting the pity look from people when I introduce Sam as my boyfriend. The “Oh you poor bitch, he’s knocked you up and won’t marry you” look.