While it’s entirely possible to fake feelings while awake, you can’t fake anything when you’re asleep.
The way you sleep together reveals clues about your true emotions and the state of your relationship. It makes sense: the closer you are, the closer you’re likely to sleep. If you fear someone’s about to leave you, chances are you’ll cling on tight. If you’re the one thinking of leaving, you’ll create distance between you.
UK Professor Richard Wiseman recently asked more than 1000 people to describe their favourite sleeping position and rate the quality of their relationship. His results match earlier Californian research.
Do you fall asleep entwined in a full-body cuddle? Or is it more a case of edge-of-the-bed balancing to avoid the accidental brush of skin against skin? Here’s the verdict on your sleeping style:
1. You sleep face to face, every part touching
You do it: The pose of new lovers smack in the middle of the I-can’t-believe-I’ve-found-you bit. It shows a desire to connect on all levels, a need for reassurance (by hanging on possessively, they can’t run away) and a total commitment to each other and the relationship. If you’re still doing it years in, however, there’s a hint of Tweedledum-Tweedledee co-dependency (not a bad idea to un-velcro your hips now and then).
You don’t: Panic not. This is the least favourite position of all with only four percent of couples claiming to like it.
I say ‘claim’ because, seriously, who can sleep like this? Who doesn’t worry their breath will smell (or their partner’s), that they’ll dribble or snore or open their eyes to see their partner looking aghast because they’ve seen your ‘sleeping face’? (My latest paranoia having recently slept and woken face to face with a mirror, worst fears realised.)