It seems so common that girlfriends complain about their weight to each other but how you respond to them can really make the scales spin.
“I feel so fat.” “Do I look fat?” “I’m starting a diet on Monday.” “God I’m fat.”
How many of you have girlfriends who constantly go on about their weight?
Aaarrrgghhhh! Enough already.
But let’s take a test… What do you say when your friend says she’s fat?
A) “OK set some goals and get to the gym!”
B) “You look great just the way your are!”
C) “You can’t weigh awesome and no other scale counts!”
You might like A) because it’s straight forward and proactive and I love C) because let’s face it, if you make comments like that it means you’re a legend and we should totally hang out.
But apparently that is all WRONG.
B) is the only correct answer according to a new study out from the International Association for Relationship Research.
Now the study was small, with just over 100 female university students in Canada surveyed, but the results were still interesting.
It found when responding to your friend, you shouldn’t encourage weight loss or completely ignore the issue but you should be positive and encourage body acceptance.
And it says by being positive about her weight, your girlfriend will not only feel better, but it will also help her to stop stressing out about her body and she’ll actually lose weight.
Stop it. What?
Let me break it down.
Basically the study looked at how the messages the uni students got from their friends affected their preoccupation with weight and their actual weight gain over the course of nine months.
By the end of the study, those who were initially concerned about their weight but had received mainly positive messages like, “You look great just as you are” maintained or even lost weight.
But on the flip side, those who had the same initial concerns but were told by their loved ones to try to reach their weight loss goals or who’s concerns were completely ignored, actually gained an average of two kilos during those months.