Your career is your first baby, but what do you do if you don’t want it anymore?
When you become a mother, it’s not just your bra size that changes. Your priorities become completely different.
Your old job might feel about as comfortable as one of your pre-baby strapless numbers. You could be struggling with long hours or find that you don’t actually want to be the ‘have it all’ mum with the high flying role and a little one who you can’t give enough time to.
Many women feel anxious and withdrawn and in the middle of a major identity crisis after they become mothers, according to Anna Jonak from Grow Happy Coaching.
Anna found herself in that exact position after having children Jack and Poppy. It was what inspired her to leave her sales and advertising career and retrain to help women at a career crossroad. She now offers one-on-one sessions and online courses, giving mothers the tools they need to start fresh.
These are Anna’s steps for making a positive career change to suit your new identity as a parent.
1. Stop making excuses.
You have twenty to thirty years of working left in your life. Do you really want to spend them all unhappy?
Feeling like you are rotting on the inside doesn’t have a positive flow on to your partner and children. “This is your life!” says Anna, “When you come up against an excuse such as money or time, set yourself a challenge to find the solution.”
2. Decide WHAT you want.
You might be keen to work closer to home, to find a completely new career or to take the leap into your own business. Have a think about where you’d like your career to head and get the vision clear in your mind.