Have you ever gone on a date and had the sensation you were interviewing the other person, rather than having a conversation?
Or, have you ever tried talking to someone at a dinner party and felt like you were getting sucked into a social black hole?
Did you walk away feeling utterly exhausted and disappointed?
Well, I have something that’s about to change your life. It’s called The Three Question Rule.
I first heard about The Three Question Rule three years ago after a friend told a friend who told me, and ever since it has changed the way I socially interact with people.
It goes like this: if you meet someone in a social setting for the first time, ask them three questions. If in that time they haven't asked you a question back then GET OUT OF THERE, because that person has no manners and is wasting your time.
Honestly, it’s not hard to ask someone a question; by doing so, you're showing the person you care and are engaged. Therefore, if the person you meet doesn’t care, then don’t force it. It's not your responsibility to carry the conversation just because the other person was obviously raised by wolves.
Let’s play a little game of compare and contrast. Look at these two scenarios and tell me which one you would prefer to be in:
Jane: Hi! I’m Jane
John: Hi! I’m John
Jane: How do you know Tom?
John: I work with him
Jane: Where do you work?
John: At X Company
Jane: How long have you worked there?