American author and part-time misogynist Neil Strauss is the man responsible for breaching the divide between pickup artists and nice blokes.
The author set himself a task: infiltrate the ‘seduction community’… and become a pickup artist.
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In 2005, Strauss published The Game – a detailed recount of every step in his journey to becoming ‘Style’, his pickup artist alter-ego. It flew onto The New York Times bestsellers list within months, and with good reason…
Strauss hand-picked psychological techniques used by professional pickup artists to trick women, and he circulated them.
In The Game, he created the lonely man’s Bible.
And from this - from the lonely man's Bible - one pickup technique stood out above the rest...
Used on any pickup target and loved for its ease, the 'neg' is a backhanded compliment designed to create insecurity in a person.
The pickup artist will point out a feature of another person they deem 'negative', but frame the insult as a compliment: "The hair on your upper lift is really soft", for instance. Or, "I like that you don't dress as flashy as your friends".