I have a friend, Sammy, who online-dates like a champion. Her phone is constantly pinging with new messages and matches, and every week from Wednesday through Saturday she’s out with young single guys, living her best life.
But when it comes to Bumble, Tinder et al, she has one rule: if she sees a picture of a man with a dog, she keeps right on swiping.
“I get so annoyed, I make a point not to talk to them,” she shares.
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Sammy is, of course, the minority. In a 2015 study titled “The Roles of pet Dogs and Cats in Human Courtship and Dating”, published in the quarterly research journal Anthrozoos, findings showed women were more likely to take pet ownership into account when considering a potential mate – and listed dogs as more compelling “social tools” than cats.
There’s just something about seeing men with their loyal pups that gets our serotonin spiking. It sends a signal that says, ‘this man is caring. He knows how to look after another living thing. He committed to that dog.’
But what happens when the very good boy in the profile pic isn’t his? What if it’s…a stunt dog? Loaned to him by a friend for the specific purpose of luring you in?
This is what Sammy – and a host of other eligible young women – are taking issue with.
The official term for the trend is ‘dogfishing.’ It’s like catfishing, except instead of borrowing someone else’s face, you commandeer their canine.
And head’s up gents: it’s backfiring.
In the pursuit of making yourself look more sensitive, you might actually be coming across as a f*ckboy. Remember Bill from The Bachelorette? The guy straight up told us on national television he uses his French Bulldog Arnie as lady-bait.